Practicing the Pause
I've noticed a pattern in my life lately (or to be honest, all of the time - but I've been especially aware of it recently), and that is my tendency to do things simply out of habit, routine, or as I have planned ahead of time.
This is not inherently a bad thing, and can in fact be great in a lot of ways! It can save me time, lessen my decision making "burden," and just generally help me function effectively on an everyday basis.
The problem occurs when my auto-pilot takes over to the extent that I stop checking in with myself to see if the plan or routine still makes sense, or is what I actually want or need at the moment.
For me, this occurs around my health and wellness routines more than anything - I do whatever workout is on tap for that day, I eat the meals I had mapped out for the day/week, I follow my pre-bed wind down ritual each night...
And sometimes it's not until much later that I recognize I have completed these routines even though I didn't really want to, or something else would've been more suitable in the moment - I wasn't feeling up for that particular workout, I didn't really want to eat the meal I had prepped, my usual wind down ritual wasn't serving it's purpose etc.
This is where practicing the pause comes into play.
When I found myself zooming through routines and only in hindsight feeling the effects, I started implementing pauses throughout my day.
Before my workout: pause, do a quick body scan. Does this workout still feel appropriate or do I need to modify it?
Before a meal: pause, take a breath. What would be most satisfying right now? Is it what I have planned/prepped? Or is there something else I would like better?
Before bed: pause, check-in with how I'm feeling. Do I want to read a book or watch a movie? Sit outside or crash on the couch? Take a walk or do some yoga?
To be clear, this doesn't mean I will always do the "perfect" workout for that day, or eat exactly what I want at every meal, or have the ideal bedtime routine.
There will of course be times where I'll push through a tough workout even though I'm feeling a bit tired, or I'll eat the last of the leftovers in my fridge because I don't have the thing I really want (or any other option lol), or some evening event will alter my nighttime ritual.
But by simply practicing taking this pause from time to time, I give myself the chance to recalibrate - instead of barreling through my day and following whatever path I have laid out ahead of time.
If you're feeling like some of your habits are so ingrained that they're becoming rote, try adding a few pauses into your day.
It might be just a breath or two, a quick scan of your body, or a moment of stillness to settle your mind.
It only takes a moment to give yourself the chance to actively choose your action vs. acting on auto-pilot, but it can make a world of difference in how you feel and think, and what behaviors you choose to do.
And changing your behaviors - well, that can change everything :)
Practicing the pause is a great way to build the skill of better mind/body awareness, but it is just that - a skill that requires practice.
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